Are break ups hard?
When it is time to bring a relationship to an end it takes deep thought to find the right words to avoid hurting feelings. Even though it is tough, it has to be done.
The first question is, are there "the right words?" I mean, there are several reasons for a break up, some can be friendly due to mutual agreement, but others are rough and both sides can leave very hurt.
The second question is, who takes the lead? Sometimes it is YOU, who has to find the words and choose the moment to talk to your partner and tell them it is all over.
I had to break up a couple of times. I really hated it, but it was necessary. I was not happy and I had to let my couple about it. It was very annoying because both times the guy cried. However, I had to be strong to show them that it was a final decision. I haven't gone through the experience of someone breaking up with me. Which is good! But, I can imagine how sad it can be.
What about you? What are the words you can use? Have you broken up with someone or the other way around? How was it? What do you suggest can be done when breaking up is hard?
Take a few minutes to this classic break up song!
Ending a relationship is always difficult, no matter, if you take the decision to break up.
ReplyDeleteWhen you lead to break up, you had had the time no analyze and choose the correct words to do it in a good way, I mean trying to do the less damage to the other person.
The situation is completely different when you have to live the other side of the story, in that moment you felt uncomfortable and vulnerable.
For me the less stressful break up is when both sides are agree.
I`m agree with you Sofy, the best way to break up with someone is in common agreement.
DeleteI agree with you Sofi. If you had a special relationship with somebody was because there was something special from one to another.
DeleteI think that ending relationship is always very difficult and sad but when the relationship no works is the best route. We don't usually the right words because we are angry.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I take the lead is normal for women's Jajajaja Men stay quiet and women bla bla bla
But always break up will very stressful
Hahahaha... You looked like feminist. I don´t agree with you, I think that all the cases are different, depends of the how is each person.
DeleteIn my case, I had both experiences. I think both experiences are so unconfortable, I remember one upon a time, that I broke up with a Cuban boy in a Common agreement, because I met him in Gutemala, but then he had to go live in Miami, and when time passed I didn´t feel “In Love” and he was in the same situation, so then we decided to be friends because love was dead, and we could be friends for a long time until I got married. That experience was unless unconfortable.
ReplyDeleteI remember another guy, I broke up with him, because was a stingy boy, he always done some things like this: In one opportunity he had invited me at the movies, and then he told me at payment time that he hadn´t have money, so I paid but when the movie ended I broke up with him, and I remember I was so happy when I felt free.
Is very importat to try to avoid to hurt someone in those cases, i don´t think that there are some words to break up with someone, but the best is finish the relationship with kind words, humble and grateful for the time that the other person spended in the relationship.
Hi Majo, in my opinion I agree with you in your first break up with the Cuban man, so we have a phrase in Guatemala, "love from afar, happy the 3..."
DeleteA long time ago, I had a girlfriend that everyday called me no least than 5 times, She always exhausted me and I had to break up with her.
ReplyDeletewith other girl I were who pushed her to seen us everyday, she broke up with me and I felt a huge hurt. I felt the senses that the first girl felt. =)
I have a similar case with a girlfriend, sometimes I wanted to stay in my house and then she took her car directly to my house and this situation was not longer comfortable for me.
DeleteBreaking up with somebody is always very hard. It's a uncomfortable situation for both, it's a bitter pill to swallow, but it's something normal in life. Relationship sometimes become difficult and if the only way out is break up with the other person the better way it's to do it quickly and directly, be an open book.
ReplyDeleteIn my life I only had two girlfriend. In both cases I took the decision to break up with them, because I felt the relationship was going no where. I knew it was the best decision but hard to do it, but is necessary.
I agree with you, I think that all break up situations are uncomfortable for the couples.
DeleteMy last broken up it was dificult, at this time I listened a song that said "maybe in another life" and I said in this way, because it wasn't our time for a several situations in our profesional life and our some family issues, for me was hard because the feeling was very deep for both. You have to take some decisions that are more dificult to accept, but when you know what is the best, you have to continue.
ReplyDelete"Maybe in another life..." is was an interesting way to break up, sounds not so hard.
DeleteI had been few times to break up in my relationships. My first time was with a nice girl, with a jealous parents and the relationship started to be uncomfortable and I decided talk with her and finish our relationship. I talked with her and I told her that I could not stand her parents anymore, it was very tough for her, but after 2 months, I regretted and I wanted to back but she was an another boyfriend, so it was my tough moment.
ReplyDeleteI had another break up with a nice girl, but she was rejected by my father because he did not like her, by this situation I decided to break up with her, it was very difficult to break up because I had to lie so I could not to say her that my father did not like her.
I always had care with the words that I used in break up moments, I feel a huge respect to the women, I think that the reason is because I have 4 sisters in my family.